Happiness and joy are not the same thing, you know that, you’ve
heard that a million times, but I’m going to make the case that thankfulness and
joy just might be. For Christmas this
year, one of my best friends made me a gratitude journal and encouraged me to
really focus on all I’m thankful for in 2015. It’s been amazing y’all! Actively practicing a language of thanksgiving
is transformative. At the very least, thanksgiving is the soil in which joy
grows.
That being said, I’m going to be really honest here. It’s
pretty easy for me to give thanks for the small things. Like when the weather’s beautiful, or after
something great happens at work, or when I get to spend time with the people I
love—I’m pretty quick to offer up a prayer of thanksgiving for those types of things. But Valentine ’s
Day was this past weekend and I discovered that giving thanks for the season of
life I’m in at the moment, when I’m not particularly thrilled to be here (to put it lightly), was not something I was willing
or able to do.
When we’re disappointed, when we’ve been hurt or left out or
let down, we often are NOT feeling thankful for our present/current
circumstances. When we’re hurting and in pain it’s hard to be thankful, even though we are called to give thanks in all
circumstances.
It seems unfair that God should ask us to be thankful when
our hearts are breaking. Forcing a smile when all you want to do is cry feels hypocritical and wrong. But this “fake it till you make it”
mentality isn’t what God’s about. Read the Psalms, read Lamentations, or
any of the prophets for that matter. God invites us to tell him it like it is,
with all the ugly, raw, bitter, emotion we can muster. We’ve bought into this
lie that as believers, we aren’t supposed to feel anything other than “happy”.
Consequently, we exert an insane amount of time and energy manufacturing a superficial
façade out of shallow “happiness” to hide our pain, when in reality, life in
Christ wakes us up to feel things more deeply than ever before. The world hardens
and numbs our hearts so that it takes more and more to move us toward compassion
or anger. Dulled and unfeeling, our
hearts are no longer filled with compassion and fail to spur us into action to
ease the suffering of our neighbors.
I can’t even begin to fathom the tenderness of the heart of
God. God, 100% holy, righteous, and good, is moved by even the smallest plea
from the weakest believer. As we grow
closer to the heart of God, we too begin to feel more, not less.
So when life sucks, when we feel the bitter burn of
rejection, when our eyes and hearts are opened to see the suffering in our
world, and it hurts so much you can hardly bear it, it’s a sign that we are in fact coming to
life. That the work God began in us is continuing to mold and shape us. And that’s what we can give thanks for. As we give thanks for these things, for who God IS for all he’s done and all he
promises to do, slowly but surely we find our hearts moved to a place where we
are able to thank him for our present too.